ABOUT THE BLOG
“In some ways we got the idea that raising families was all instinct and intent, and we behave as if anyone could be an effective parent simply because he wanted to be, or because he just happened to go through the acts of conception and birth. This is the most complicated job in the world…”
The decision to start this blog was born out of the need that many fathers today are neglecting their role in the family, relegating their parental responsibilities to their spouses. They are taking a back-seat role in parenthood, satisfied in just providing financial security, shelter, and discipline (or in some cases, punishment). But being a father, a dad, goes beyond all that. Thus many fathers basically remain un-involved dads.
Being a product of such a home ignited in me a burning desire to write and share my parental experience not only as a young working-class dad but also as a child who grew up in a family with working-class parents, and an un-involved authoritarian dad.
Parenting has never been easy and it’s not getting any easier by the day. Not with the world becoming a global village following the advent of computers, smart phones, the internet, and social media. It’s never been more difficult to be a parent. And to raise children in this time of moral decadence is becoming more and more tasking.
Fathers! Your child needs you now more than ever! A father is a guide to his child. Yes, your spouse is filling the gap your absence has created. But the fact still remains that your child needs you. No one can replace you in the life of your children. Not even their mother!
No father is replaceable. Fatherhood, Daddy-hood, is as vital in parenthood as motherhood, if not more. Your daughter needs you in her life. Your son needs you in his life. There is something a father figure in the family brings that no mother can ever fill or replace. Fathers thus need to be involved in the parenting of their children. The mother can only be a mother. She can never be a father to the child. No matter how hard she tries. It is simply impracticable.
Men! Fathers! Dads! It is high time we stopped being just DNA donors, or just bread-winners to our children. We must take up our responsibility as the head, the leader. It’s high time we started being fathers and dads to our children even while we make the money, pursue our careers and keep our regular nine-to-five. It is possible. It is doable. It just takes intent, willingness, dedication, commitment, and steady perseverance!
Very simply, daddyhood9to5 is here to help fathers not only participate in parenthood with their spouse but also enjoy all the benefits of being a dad in the true sense of the word, while still pursuing their career in their various 9to5.
Fatherhood is not just a call to shelter, provide and protect. It is a mission. It is also a call to parent, to lead in the home, to lead in servitude! Fathers bring a sense of purpose and direction to the family. And no mother can replace that! DADDY HOOD IS A DIVINE CALLING! “BE THERE FOR YOUR CHILDREN!!”
ABOUT EFIOK W. UDOH (MD)
Efiok received a Doctorate of Medicine (MD) degree from The Rostov State Medical University, Rostov-On-Don, in Russia; and has been in Medical Practice for over a decade, part of which he spent two years working as a volunteer in Mozambique under the Technical Aids Corp (TAC) program of the Ministry of Foreign Affairs.
He is the lucky husband, co-partner and bosom friend to Bernice, his lovely wife, whom he met while in Maputo, the capital city of Mozambique. They have been married for six years now and counting; and are blessed with two wonderful boys – Ryan, 5yrs and Theodore, 4yrs.
A Practicing General Practitioner, a romantic husband and passionate father, he is a strong believer in instilling the Christian values in parenting and family culture. Growing up in a home with working parents he experienced first-hand the effects of uninvolved parents on the family, and especially the children.
He believes no job or career should take the primary role of a father (or mother) in the home – Parenting his children! Or raising Godly/God-fearing offspring!
He is passionate about parenthood. And it is this passion that has led to the birth of his blog – www.daddyhood9to5.com; the aim of which is to reach out not only to working dads (and Mums) but also to young adults and future parents on the need to prioritize and take on their parenting roles with diligence, willingness and absolute zeal and commitment to ensure a better future for the next generation.
He believes it is not only possible but also doable to pursue a career and/or work a 9-5 and still parent effectively!
Moreover, that “Parenthood is a divine calling!”
Wishing you bliss in your Parenting journey!
Efiok William Udoh, the second son in a family of six siblings, is a Nigerian-born Russian-trained Medical Practitioner, who has been in Private Practice for over a decade. He is an aspiring writer, fluent in English, Russian, and Portuguese languages. He is an ardent reader, a die-hard romantic and optimist. He loves to cook, travel and spend time with his family playing, having crazy fun and creating awesome memories. He is married to the jaw-dropping beautiful ex-model, Bernice, the woman of his dreams, whom he met in December 2009. They have two kids and currently live in Lagos, Nigeria.